Dear Wander
A mindful pause for your nervous system.
Break the doomscrolling loop. Sixty seconds back to yourself.
Free on iPhone. No account needed.
Free on iPhone. No account needed.
Your phone wasn't designed
to let you go.
Five hours a day. 144 unlocks. The reach is automatic, and your thumb moves before you've decided. You don't need another lock. You need someone to gently say: "Dear Wander, let's stay here a moment."
How it works
The daily self-regulation loop. From reflex to choice in three moments.
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01
The Morning Intention
Before the noise of the world rushes in, take 20 seconds to set a clear intention for your attention today ("Dinner without my phone", "Deep focus"). Behavioral science shows that pre-commitment dramatically cuts impulsive phone pickups before they begin.
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02
The 60-Second Somatic Pause
When your thumb reaches for Instagram or TikTok on autopilot, you don't hit a punitive lock. A warm amber screen, an organic breathing orb, and gentle haptic pulses meet you instead. Sixty seconds stimulate the vagus nerve, soothe the dopamine urge, and return control to your prefrontal cortex. You decide if you still enter.
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03
The Evening Close & Journal
The day closes quietly. Instead of revenge bedtime scrolling in the dark, close the loop. Look over the moments you reclaimed today, empty your thoughts into your private journal, and let the day rest without blue light.
Two rituals. One golden hour.
First Light
The morning pause
A moment to arrive in your own day, before the world rushes in. Warmer gradients, a slightly faster breath. The sun is rising. So are you.
Last Light
The evening return
The day is completing. A slower breath, deeper amber, the soft edges of twilight. Put the phone down gently. You've done enough.
From reflex to choice.
A moment of beauty
before you scroll.
Native iOS
Built on Apple's own FamilyControls API. No VPN. No Shortcuts hacks. No battery drain.
Completely private
Your data never leaves your device. No accounts. No tracking. Just you and your breath.
Never punitive
No shame metrics. No "you failed" messages. Only warmth, only letters, only presence.
What people are saying
"I've tried every screen time app. They all felt like punishment. Dear Wander is the first one that felt like a gift."
Early beta tester
"The breathing screen is so beautiful I sometimes open my phone just to see it. Which is... kind of the whole point?"
Early beta tester
Dear Wander started with a question: why does every app that promises to help you use your phone less feel like a punishment?
I tried the blockers and deleted every one of them. So I built the opposite. It never says no. It just asks you to breathe first.
Gabriela Martínez
Built by an indie developer. Follow along on Instagram: @dearwander.app
The Journal
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Read →Questions, gently answered
Is Dear Wander an app blocker?
No. It doesn't lock you out of anything. When you open an app you've chosen, a calm breathing screen appears first. After about sixty seconds, you decide whether to continue. Most of the time, people put the phone down on their own.
Which apps does it work with?
You choose. Pick the apps that pull you in most, like Instagram, TikTok, or X, and leave the rest untouched. Maps, messages, and everything you actually need stay exactly as they are.
Is my data private?
Completely. Everything stays on your device. No accounts, no tracking, no analytics. We never see which apps you choose or how you use them.
Will it drain my battery?
No. Dear Wander is built on Apple's native Screen Time API. No VPN, no background workarounds, no battery drain.
What does it cost?
Dear Wander is on the App Store now. It is free with one app paused, and premium unlocks unlimited apps and the full guided library: $3.99 a month, $19.99 a year, or $39.99 once.